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Today was great because I got to spend time with my sister, cousin, tita, tito, and my amazing-wonderful mom. It was a great mothers day. Particularly the part where my sister told me what my mom said earlier this week about me. As my sister and mom were taking their usual walk in the park, my mom had a question for my sister…the conversation went like this…

“So you know how I came up to Joaqui’s apartment, near the door way I saw a poster board and on that board I saw a piece of paper that said ‘husband’. He was standing in front of me trying to cover the board behind him so I wouldn’t see it, but I saw it and didn’t want to say anything. It confused me because it said something husband and at the end, love husband. So what does that mean? Is he bakla (gay)?” my mom asked with such curiosity.

“Well even if he was, how does that make you feel?” my sister replied.

“Wala (nothing), if that’s how God made him, then that’s how God made him.” my mom said right after.

(This board has all the things we’ve done together…hehe cute right?)

I turned red immediately after my sister told this story (my mom was inside a store purchasing something). I started laughing and I felt embarrassed because she saw the board. I honestly didn’t think my mom saw it, but she obviously did. My sister says that she likes to play dumb, but she obviously saw it. I mean its pretty obvious right, how can you miss that board? 

So today, before we hung out with my cousin, tito, and tita, my sister and my mom needed to use the bathroom. After the were done, I had to use it, but I felt a feeling that my mom was going to tell my sister to look at the ‘husband note’. When I got out, I saw my mom standing next to the board, she then asked me,

“Bakla ka ba? (are you gay)?”

“Ummm mmmmm” I replied with a smile as I grabbed my keys to go.

“What does husband mean?” she continued.

I walked straight pass her and out the door, I felt so embarrassed.

My mom has known I was gay since 2001, after she read a letter from my ex that she opened in the mail. It was then that my mom found out I was gay (well…I assume). Since then, we haven’t really talked about my sexuality because to be honest our relationship has never changed because of it. However, she showed her acceptance in different ways like buying me earrings or by telling me to wear certain things. I mean by now, if my mom doesn’t know I’m gay - I dunno what to tell you lol. Its kind of those, I don’t need to tell you I am because I know you already know and it doesn’t phase me.

So before my sister and mom left today, I gave them both a hug…My mom teased me as she said,

“Goodbye husband!” and started laughing with my sister

As my sister told me, this is her way of finally being vocal about it because when it comes down to it, I’m sure you’d want to introduce who you’re serious with to mom. And it hit me then…she’s right.

My mom loves me and I know that. I mean she chose to adopt me and I know its the best choice she ever did. I’m so grateful for her. I love her and she loves me…that will never change. Even though she has her own opinions about gays, she knows she has a gay son. Its been a process and I appreciate my mom being vocal about it, even if that means her teasing me.

Happy Mothers day to the BEST mom ever =]

I don’t get why she wanted a picture next to the parking sign. LOL her idea, she said it was more interesting. AHHH that’s what I say =] I love my mom